The goal of this quiz is to help you (and your spouse) identify, clarify and discuss your feelings and goals about adoption. If you have a spouse or partner, complete the assessment separately, then compare and discuss your answers.
How much time will you take off work during and after the adoption?
How much money would you be willing to spend on an adoption?
How much economic hardship would that cause?
When and how do you feel children should be told they're adopted?
As early as possible / preschool
Mid- to late-childhood
Only when they ask
Only when they find out
Would you support/assist your child if he/she wanted to find, contact or have a relationship with his/her birthparents?
Many adoptive parents have 'dry runs' before they actually adopt. How would you handle an adoption that matched with you but did not end up placing?
22. Will you or your spouse (partner) change your workload outside the home after the adoption?
Yes, I will stay at home with the child
Yes, my spouse will stay at home with the child
I will reduce my work load to part time
My spouse will reduce his/her work load to part time
Will remain the same
What do you feel you could contribute to a child?
What aspects of childrearing are so important to you that you would find it difficult to compromise (such as discipline, religion, schooling, stay-at-home parenting, etc.)?
Are you ready to love an adopted child as much as one you gave birth to biologically?
I think so
I don't know
Would you prefer to continue with infertility treatment before seriously pursuing adoption? If so, why?
Deep down do you feel like you are being forced to adopt if you want to have children, adoption as a means to build a family is "second best," or that adoption is your "last resort" if you want to be able to have children? (If you answered yes to any of these points, there is a very good chance that you have some significant unresolved issues relating to infertility that you might find beneficial to address and resolve prior to adopting.)