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Self-Assessment Adoption Quiz

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The goal of this quiz is to help you (and your spouse) identify, clarify and discuss your feelings and goals about adoption. If you have a spouse or partner, complete the assessment separately, then compare and discuss your answers.

  1. Why do you want to adopt?

  2. On a scale of 1 to 10, with 10 being the highest, how badly do you want to adopt?

  3. Who is the driver of wanting this adoption? Will this cause conflict?
    • Me (definitely)
    • Me (a little bit more than my spouse)
    • My spouse/partner (definitely)
    • My spouse/partner (a little bit more)
    • Both want to adopt about the same

  4. Will this driver/driven dynamic cause conflict in your relationship?

  5. What age child would you prefer to adopt? (Underline the preferred age, and circle all ages you would be willing to consider.)
    • Newborn (under six months)
    • Infant (newborn to 2)
    • Preschooler (3 to 5)
    • Primary school (6 to 10)
    • Middle school (11 to 14)
    • High school (15 to 18)

  6. How firm are you on the age selected above?

  7. Which of the following disabilities would you be willing to consider in an adoptive child? (Select all that you would consider)
    • Drug exposed (occasional)
    • Deafness
    • Mild or medically correctable condition
    • No drugs or alcohol considered
    • Non-correctable (cerebral palsy, retardation etc.)
    • Alcohol exposed (occasional)
    • Alcohol exposed (frequent)
    • Smoking exposed
    • Emotional/mental disorders in family
    • Emotional/mental disorders in child
    • Premature birth
    • Multiple birth
    • Club foot
    • Cleft pallet or lip
    • Downs Syndrome
    • Epilepsy in child
    • Epilepsy in family
    • Blindness
    • Diabetes in child
    • Diabetes in family
    • Conceived through rape
    • Conceived through incest
    • Nothing known about father
    • Nothing known about mother
    • Sibling group

  8. Which of the following racial heritages would you be willing to consider in an adoptive child? (Select all that apply)
    • Any Child
    • Arab/Middle Eastern
    • Asian
    • African American
    • Caucasian
    • Caucasian/Asian
    • Caucasian/African American
    • European
    • Caucasian/Hispanic
    • Caucasian/Native American
    • Eastern European/Slavic/Russian
    • Hispanic or South/Central American
    • Mediterranean
    • Middle Eastern
    • Multi-Racial
    • Native American (American Indian)
    • Pacific Islander
  9. Which gender would you prefer in your child?
    • Girl
    • Boy
    • Either

  10. Would you consider twins?
    • Yes
    • No

  11. Do you feel you are stable in your relationship as a couple without having children?

  12. Which friends and family members would you want to tell about your adoption plans? Which would be supportive and which would not?

  13. What level of openness are you willing to consider with birthparents?
    • Completely open adoption
    • Open adoption with reasonable boundaries
    • Exchanging letters and photos only
    • Completely confidential adoption

  14. Would you be willing to comply with specific birth family requests regarding child rearing (such as religious instruction, name or schooling)?
    • Yes
    • No

  15. 15. Where would you be willing to go to adopt? (Select all that apply)
    • Only in our state
    • Neighboring states
    • Anywhere in US
    • International

  16. How much time will you take off work during and after the adoption?

  17. How much money would you be willing to spend on an adoption?

  18. How much economic hardship would that cause?

  19. When and how do you feel children should be told they're adopted?
    • As early as possible / preschool
    • Mid- to late-childhood
    • As adults
    • Only when they ask
    • Only when they find out
    • Never
    • Not sure

  20. Would you support/assist your child if he/she wanted to find, contact or have a relationship with his/her birthparents?
    • Yes
    • No
    • Don't know

  21. Many adoptive parents have 'dry runs' before they actually adopt. How would you handle an adoption that matched with you but did not end up placing?

  22. 22. Will you or your spouse (partner) change your workload outside the home after the adoption?
    • Yes, I will stay at home with the child
    • Yes, my spouse will stay at home with the child
    • I will reduce my work load to part time
    • My spouse will reduce his/her work load to part time
    • Will remain the same
    • Already stay-at-home

  23. What do you feel you could contribute to a child?

  24. What aspects of childrearing are so important to you that you would find it difficult to compromise (such as discipline, religion, schooling, stay-at-home parenting, etc.)?

  25. Are you ready to love an adopted child as much as one you gave birth to biologically?
    • Yes
    • No
    • I think so
    • I don't know
  26. Would you prefer to continue with infertility treatment before seriously pursuing adoption? If so, why?

  27. Deep down do you feel like you are being forced to adopt if you want to have children, adoption as a means to build a family is "second best," or that adoption is your "last resort" if you want to be able to have children?
    (If you answered yes to any of these points, there is a very good chance that you have some significant unresolved issues relating to infertility that you might find beneficial to address and resolve prior to adopting.)

  28. What is the ideal adoption situation for you?

  29. Ideally, how many children would you like?

  30. How long are you willing to wait to adopt?
    • Up to six months
    • Six months to 1 year
    • 1 year to 2 years
    • 2 to 3 years
    • However long it takes
    Visitor Comments (3)
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    johnisha - 11 months ago
    0 2 22
    l agree that there should not be any price for adopton. because a lot more people would if it was free.and its sad that people kill babies all the time and so many people desperately want kids.dont give up hope trust in our lord,and savior jesus christ .keep faith. #1
    Cherish - 10 months ago
    0 2 11
    I always thought I'd have 3-4 kids, because I love children so much. I had my son and wanted to wait until he was 1 before trying for my 2nd... Well almost 5 years later and still not able to have a 2nd child has broke my heart and I thought of adopting because I've always loved and wanted children {no matter if I didn't give birth to them}, I'd still love them deeply as if they were my own.. It's really sad that people would choose to kill their babies and not let families that can't have them and want them to give them a chance at life with people who'd love and value them. Adoption shouldn't cost a dime to help kids who needs a loving home. #2
    Chidinma Irolo Nmaju - 9 months ago
    0 1 5
    My own submission is that these kids should be given a chance to be loved and cared for through adoption rather than allowing them to be killed by those related to them biologically. At least 70 percent of the adoptive parents will treat these kids right thereby giving them a sense of.belonging when these kids are being adopted. #3
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