6. They Keep An Honest Record of Their Efforts:
Different things work for different people. It is important for to you keep a written record of the things you have done, when you did them, what felt comfortable and why, and what things worked and didn’t work for you. This will not only be important in helping you gauge your current progress and growth, but it will also be extremely helpful to you later when you are ready to start looking for another child after successfully adopting the first time around.
There is an old Chinese Proverb that goes something like this:
"When you feel you have lost a battle, make certain you also do not lose the lesson."
Evaluating your efforts in writing on a regular and consistent basis can also improve the chances that you will never mistake motion for action, or sound for music, and will have a better chance of focusing your efforts on those things that will ultimately provide you with your best opportunity to succeed. By having a written record, it also makes it easier for someone else to step in briefly to help you evaluate the effectiveness of what you are doing, and to help you set goals that are better focused on how to improve your chances for success.
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