9. They Locate and Utilize Networking Opportunities:
For a variety of personal reasons, many prospective adoptive parents are uncomfortable, embarrassed or timid about the fact that they want to adopt. Sometimes they even feel embarrassed that they have to use adoption to build their family. From the point of view of all the wonderful people that would love to help you adopt, nothing could be farther from the truth about how they perceive you, and how they feel about you and your desire to adopt.
Not only are people very eager to help you find an opportunity to adopt, they actually WANT to help you adopt. When they can see that you feel good, then they will feel even better, knowing that they were helpful in making your family happy. Most successful adoptive parents are excited and proud to be able to adopt. If you don’t believe me, just ask them!
You shouldn’t approach networking in such a way that the people closest to you hide when they see you coming, or in such a way that your close friends stop inviting you over, because all you talk about is adoption. There is a point at which moderation and restraint must prevail. If you are sensitive and observant, you will be able to strike the proper balance.
On the other hand, if you are extremely timid about the fact that you want to adopt, and that you are available NOW to do it, then how can you expect people to think of you when they come across an adoption opportunity that might be right for you? In the dating game for example, if you never ask, you will never get kissed. You must learn to become comfortable with talking to everyone about your adoption goals. When all is said and done, you cannot be timid and be successful!
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